In my early days (2014) as a Master Trainer, I was criticized by a couple of former Master Trainers (they were from another company but I really looked up to them). I use the word “criticize” carefully distinguishing it from corrective feedback intended to inspire someone to make improvements. They had nothing edifying to say to me. They didn’t like the way I looked. For one small example, I was told my hair looked way too messy and that it got in my face while I taught and that I should always slick it back in a tight braid or ponytail to look the part. (One of my newbie MT friends was told by the same women that she should put pads in her bra.) I could go on...
Fast forward. Last week we filmed @warriorrhythm Lesson 4. Afterward, I said, “hey, wanna get some pictures to commemorate the day?“ and Amber noted our hair was disastrous. And I smiled. And said “GOOD”!!
Those girls who put me down with smirks on their lips do not in any way reflect on Beachbody and how awesome that company treated me as a Master Trainer. Nor do they represent the incredible culture of Beachbody MTs who love to build one another up. But I think of them from time to time. Especially now as I endeavor to build a culture that embraces messy f*#€ing hair, little boobies and EVERYTHING else.
Young women reading this, I wish I could have been there to put an arm around my younger self. To whisper in her ear THEY ARE WRONG ABOUT YOU and their hateful comments and sideways glances are not worth the tears and dip in confidence. But I can’t, so I’ll say it to YOU. People who don’t make you believe in the best version of yourself are not worth your time. Period.
Ellen de Werd is the creator of WARRIOR Rhythm™ and WARRIOR Strength™. Inspired by global interest in her format, Ellen opened the WARRIOR Instructor Academy.